After a bad experience with someone, people react differently. Some people hold grudges. But is it the best thing to do?
After a bad experience, it is natural that one is still upset. It is a part of our human nature to not forgive immediately. There is not a person who can instantly forgive another person after a negative experience and continue to move on unaffected. This process of finding a way to get over the pain that develops might take months or possibly even longer, depending on the situation. Some people have trouble with holding on to bad memories and try not to release their emotions to others. I myself am guilty of doing this very same thing. Without expressing feelings through some outlet, whether one decides to make it personal and not tell others (even though telling friends is sometimes the best thing to do, because friends support one and help they do well) or shares it could make one hold on to anger and resentment longer. Eventually after the months of resentment, one has to realize an important fact:
this process is one of healing. Holding on to resentment is counter-intunitive for healing. When one realizes that instead of confronting the one who caused the pain, talking to the person in question and finding CLOSURE is healthier and heals you. By doing this action, it makes you able to finally move on from the hurtful experience in a mature way. This gives one options: One could pursue a friendship without the “baggage” from the painful experience.
By being mature and talking things out, one can finally move on from any painful situation in complete confidence that he/she did the right and fair thing for both parties.